tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post5064455049199535087..comments2023-09-19T03:56:30.156-07:00Comments on You Don't Have to Like Me: Children Do NOT Come With A GuidebookThe Sports Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17975653596215246648noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-77720808013365550232007-12-17T17:47:00.000-07:002007-12-17T17:47:00.000-07:00Y'know, this topic reminds me vaguely of another t...Y'know, this topic reminds me vaguely of another topic making the rounds right now: do you do Santa with your kids? I feel like a real loser when responding to those blogs. He was real in our house. But a lot of the moms on other blogs either don't do Santa or treat him as a fun little story. What's the world coming to when your opinion makes you feel crazy?Fleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03412755038083750088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-9049554155339588112007-12-17T15:09:00.000-07:002007-12-17T15:09:00.000-07:00I spanked when necessary, and sometimes when not n...I spanked when necessary, and sometimes when not necessary, unfortunately, but, like you, there's a point when they're just too old. Yay. And not all of them needed that kind of discipline. My youngest, the ADHD child, was the recipient of most of the spankings. Most of the time, when I was removed from my anger and let him know why I was spanking, made sure he understood, it worked.<BR/><BR/>I'm also a counter. I learned, at some point, to get up and start walking toward them if they didn't switch gears after "one". When they saw me moving, I usually didn't have to get past two. If they knew I was serious and had a vested interest in what they were doing, they tended to listen. I still have to do that with the 10 year old.<BR/><BR/>Parenting is such hard work. And our kids make sure that we do our job, don't they?Fleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03412755038083750088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-10612897481778291582007-12-16T21:51:00.000-07:002007-12-16T21:51:00.000-07:00AFF: Welcome! Glad you found me, and I hope you'l...AFF: Welcome! Glad you found me, and I hope you'll visit often! Counting didn't work for us, as really all it did was teach my kids to count. And that for some reason I could never mean it if I threatened to stop at 5. *sigh*<BR/><BR/>Chris, that is a concept we struggled with. I can honestly say that the spankings were few and far between, and as I mentioned, not with Bug for a multitude of reasons. I genuinely applaud and admire parents who have more patience than I, who have found methods that work well for them.The Sports Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17975653596215246648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-31240301866470578302007-12-16T06:43:00.000-07:002007-12-16T06:43:00.000-07:00Honestly, I have never laid a hand on my kids. I ...Honestly, I have never laid a hand on my kids. I don't think I ever could. How can I tell them, "Don't hit your sister. We DON'T hit in this family."...and then spank them? Nope, not happening here.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07086804424647399637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-34252910949483639722007-12-15T07:35:00.000-07:002007-12-15T07:35:00.000-07:00I found you via Burgh (whom I love). I generally ...I found you via Burgh (whom I love). I generally have my sound off as I don't like most people's choice of music, but obviously you are an exception to the rule. I love all 80s. And, I'm sitting here looking at your play list debating whether or not just to leave you on & turn you up. I seriously LOVE your choices.<BR/><BR/>About spanking: I do when necessary. I was spanked & my hub was, too. My child would not have done well with time outs. I have hated every single pop, but now that my son is more conscious of his choices, just saying 1...2... & he whips into shape. I like the 1,2,3 use of spanking as it gives the child the option to correct their behavior. And, when I do need to reinforce these days, I generally just tell him to give me his hand and gently spank it. I would challenge anyone who thought every method worked for every child.AnGlOpHiLe FoOtBaLl FaNaTiChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13609029982049285576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-38596908598595481672007-12-14T22:52:00.000-07:002007-12-14T22:52:00.000-07:00LBB, she's great! And you read ME, so you're obvio...LBB, she's great! And you read ME, so you're obviously not against mommy blogs... lol... <BR/><BR/>Rachel, I saw that she tagged you as well, and I can't wait to see your perspective. Thanks for thinking I did ok. It was definitely a tough one.The Sports Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17975653596215246648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-87223231590314278212007-12-14T21:31:00.000-07:002007-12-14T21:31:00.000-07:00Wonderful!You did wonderfully!! Amy tagged me on ...Wonderful!<BR/>You did wonderfully!! Amy tagged me on this one and I want the time and the space to be able to do this properly, intelligently and make it worthy of the topic.<BR/>I am going to tackle this monday.<BR/>You did a wonderful job. Thank you.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03395575647647856801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-63550829270332319222007-12-14T21:16:00.000-07:002007-12-14T21:16:00.000-07:00I guess I'll have to visit Amy, what with such a g...I guess I'll have to visit Amy, what with such a glowing endorsement!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-6110599132661339052007-12-14T17:04:00.000-07:002007-12-14T17:04:00.000-07:00Karen, take your time. As I said, no pressure. But...Karen, take your time. As I said, no pressure. But I am interested to see what you have to say.<BR/><BR/>Amy, I meant every word about you! :) Its never made sense to me to discipline them the same, when I can't treat them the same. They are unique individuals. <BR/><BR/>Kidzmama, thank you. It IS a difficult subject to write about for the entire internet to see and judge. I look forward to seeing your perspective!The Sports Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17975653596215246648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-60184098531511139272007-12-14T16:51:00.001-07:002007-12-14T16:51:00.001-07:00There's a fine line to walk in the blogging world....There's a fine line to walk in the blogging world. Say what's on your mind, try and make some friends that relate to you, but don't get too attached, this is the internet people!<BR/><BR/>That said, I think you did a great job here. Honest and well thought out. It's a sensitive topic for most people.<BR/><BR/>I will post my meme over the weekend. Thanks for thinking of me!Kidzmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06750828246807725671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-19408393823996751302007-12-14T16:51:00.000-07:002007-12-14T16:51:00.000-07:00Thank you so much for the kind compliments. You a...Thank you so much for the kind compliments. You are very sweet!<BR/><BR/>You did a good job on this post. I love how you address the difference between your children, and how discipline changes because of those differences. I commend you for taking the extra time to address Bug's needs, and addressing them with love and patience.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05199941051691469813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-39300374490986702212007-12-14T11:41:00.000-07:002007-12-14T11:41:00.000-07:00Wow, this is a challenging one. I'm not feeling q...Wow, this is a challenging one. I'm not feeling quite up to it today, but I'll try to post on it soon, and I'll let you know when I do. Thanks for the tag!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-88206996772196893042007-12-14T09:52:00.000-07:002007-12-14T09:52:00.000-07:00Sorry about the TRACEY with an E - I am bowing my ...Sorry about the TRACEY with an E - I am bowing my head in shame, Tracy with NO E!!<BR/><BR/>Isn't that pic great? <BR/><BR/>I think it makes today's entry "complete!"<BR/><BR/>HallieWonderful World of Weinershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12704174092907120103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-27226289281639029502007-12-14T09:36:00.000-07:002007-12-14T09:36:00.000-07:00Shellie, welcome to my place! And thank you for yo...Shellie, welcome to my place! And thank you for your comments!<BR/><BR/>Karen and BB's Mom, I can't wait to see what you guys have to say on this topic.<BR/><BR/>Stella, thank you!The Sports Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17975653596215246648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-21402488872286907522007-12-14T07:50:00.000-07:002007-12-14T07:50:00.000-07:00Excellent post.Do you mind if I cut and paste to a...Excellent post.<BR/>Do you mind if I cut and paste to avoid having to do mine. You've done yours so well! ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07859054715459355896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-49630480305502683162007-12-14T07:22:00.000-07:002007-12-14T07:22:00.000-07:00This has been a topic of discussion in my house la...This has been a topic of discussion in my house lately. I'll have to share where we're currently at sometime in teh next week.Burgh Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09123901504643963583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-2913900363102334152007-12-14T06:33:00.000-07:002007-12-14T06:33:00.000-07:00Well I guess I'll refrain from commenting since I'...Well I guess I'll refrain from commenting since I'll be talking all about this at my own blog.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09037928148778848386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275878771187870033.post-55048022514297338622007-12-14T00:38:00.000-07:002007-12-14T00:38:00.000-07:00I loved this, finally a thought provoking meme. I...I loved this, finally a thought provoking meme. I will not only be gentle, I will be validating. I think Love and Logic is the goal. Occasionally, and frankly the less frequent the better, a little tush warming is understandable. Might I say that most of the time I don't spank. My mom said to me once, that she thought the saying to never spank your child in anger was silly, because no one spanks their child because they're happy with them. I told her I had never spanked in anger, only in utter desperation. ( I only had one kid at that point.) I have since spanked on occasion out of utter desperation and anger, but it has mostly been a complete wash-up. I feel horrible about it, they resent it, and they get more hostile. Real big help. But about 3.2 times, it shocked them into the realization that they were out of line and it worked. I also have ADHD kids with sensory issues so I can totally relate. My opinion, build up an arsenal of better options and self control techniques and only spank 3.2 times in a childhood. :) P.S.I found you through the Burgh BabyShelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12851446861098955538noreply@blogger.com