There comes a point in a mother's life when she realizes she just has to let go, so that her baby can make his own mistakes and live his own life. She has to give that boy the opportunity to try new things, experience his own brand of excitement, and learn to cook his own dinner and do his own laundry. And while in doing that, a mother would almost certainly gain a lighter workload at home and fewer I Hate You!'s tossed her way, she would probably also find herself walking around in a constant state of anxiety-- wondering if he's remembering to look both ways before crossing the street? Did he put his seat belt on? Did he eat something better than ramen for dinner? Are his socks able to walk themselves to the laundry room yet?
We're not even going to mention the fact that in giving your baby his freedom, he in turn gives you wrinkles and gray hair. There simply is no justice in that, and it is not a fair trade.
My oldest son will be 16 in six short months. He will be wanting ride around in cars driven by his friends. He will be wanting to ride around in a car driven by himself. He will want to have girls riding around in a car driven by himself. And while I have a hard enough time accepting the combination of my son and the driver's seat of a car, the image of the combination of my son, a car and a girl..... well, it makes my eyes glass over, my body curl into a fetal position rocking back and forth, and my mouth to utter the phrase Its Not Real over and over. And over. Simply put, I.Am.NOT.Ready. Not ready at all.
It's not that I don't want him to be more independent, or able to do a lot of things on his own. Really, I think I would quite like it if he started doing his own laundry. The constant need to wash football and baseball uniforms gets a little old, if the truth were told. No, it's that I don't want him to grow up.
When he grows up, there will be no more football games to go to. No more baseball games. No more late night calls to come pick the guys up from the movies. No more text messages from school reminding me he's out of lunch money. When he grows up, there will be no more arguments about having spaghetti for dinner, he just won't ever make that for himself. There won't be any more mad dashes through the house looking for stray socks to make sure they get in the washer, or random school projects in various stages scattered about. No more weekends spent on English papers he'd rather not write.
When he grows up, he won't need me any longer.
And that? That is what I'm not ready for. The wrinkles and gray hair? Those I can handle. Watching my baby grow into a man? Not so much.